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Discussion # 17 - Ego / Pride

Most people think of ego as being all bad, & it's not. Ego in it's purest form is self-esteem, which (in the right dose) is extremely healthy. Pride is also healthy in the right dose. Why these terms have gotten such a bad reputation, is because many people overdose on them. When most talk about pride & ego, they are really referring to extreme pride & ego. Which, when coupled with greed are basically the root of all evil.

As we see/experience everything through our own eyes/senses, the world really does seem to revolve around us. It's easy to see why so many struggle with this issue. People try desperately to hide these attitudes, but they are always there. We take pride in our education, property, affluence, family, accomplishments, talents, (etc.), & this is normal, healthy & fun. Just like a lot of things in life, it's only a problem in excess.

People are watching very closely for these traits, & they greatly affect our popularity. It makes me laugh when I see people being overly judgemental in this area, because it's pretty obvious they do it too. Everyone flexes their pride & ego muscles every now & then, & in moderation it's healthy, gratifying & enjoyable. On the other hand when extreme, people can smell it a mile away, & it can be a pretty foul odor. It shouldn't be all or nothing, just balance. This applies to the competitive spirit as well.

Think of our ego as being the underlying driving engine that is constantly chugging away, attempting to maintain or increase our perceived significance in the universe. It's interesting to see how we all quickly evaluate each other when meeting someone for the first time. It can be extremely difficult to change this initial evaluation regardless of what we accomplish or achieve later on. People generally attempt to keep you at that same level in their minds forever. It would take something extremely major to alter it even a little. It's funny that despite this, our ego strongly motivates us to almost constantly try.

We all have an ego (self-esteem). It's only when a person's ego greatly surpasses their talent, or justification for said ego, that people are turned off and will judge harshly for it. Most people tend to be fairly self-absorbed in the modern era, and generally toggle back & forth between feeling quite proud of themselves, to obsession with their own perceived flaws. The more confident an individual is, the less they will vacillate in this manner, and the more likely they (we) will be more generous and thoughtful towards others. As we advance through history, narcissism is becoming more and more common, but there are still some down-to-earth, humble people out there (and many more who fall somewhere in between).

Whether at work or at play, for most people much of the time, dealing with the egos of others is generally by far the most mentally exhausting aspect of life. The higher the "arse factor" of the person or people you are dealing with, the more exhausting it is. On the other hand, many get a huge thrill out of competing with those who have a similarly large ego, and interacting with others can often be the most enjoyable activity in this life. It's a complex subject, as we are complex creatures. Getting a good handle on this, however, normally results in dramatically higher quality of life.

Many women are actually quite attracted to a man with a larger ego or AF (and vise/versa). They are often more than willing to tolerate the more negative aspects that come with these more aggressive personality types. This has always been quite fascinating to me, as being myself more of a passive and laid-back individual, I've noticed this phenomenon on many occasions. The basic underlying aggression level is in my opinion, one of the most critical and defining aspects of our personality (second only to intelligence). This just further proves how complex and different we all are.

Another strange but true reality, is that all racial pockets of people in our world are at least a little racist toward some or all other pockets. Not overtly, as of course this is politically incorrect and socially unacceptable, but more of a subtle, underlying attitude that certain (or all) other pockets are somehow less significant overall as human beings. It's absolutely hilarious to me, how so many honestly believe that it's a one-way street in this area. In other words, most believe that they are the ones that either are or aren't acting or feeling racist toward others. It actually works both ways, our ego just doesn't normally see it this way.

The world doesn't just revolve around us, it also revolves around our racial and/or social groups, whatever they might be. To us, our skin colour, etc. seems more "normal", and to others, their's seems more "normal". It's all just perception. This is a big part of the reason why when people immigrate into a foreign country, most normally congregate and choose to live surrounded by their own racial and/or religious pockets.

As much as many try to put others first (including myself), if we're really honest with ourselves, we know that our ego makes it really tough to do. Most can pull this off with their own children, parents, close family and friends, but beyond that, it can be very difficult. When you really stop and think about this, it makes no sense at all. Yes we're genetically and/or emotionally/socially more closely linked, but why is this such a massively huge deal to us? We're all human beings! The answer is simple, it's just our human ego. I personally believe that the main thing is to respect each other as fellow human beings. We're all sharing this planet with each other, and deserve a fair shot at happiness in this thing called life.

The ego we all possess has a huge impact on the game of "Social Darwinism" that the world has become. Our ego is pumping away constantly, rising and falling depending on the situation at hand. How others perceive this in an overall, ongoing fashion plays a huge role in how successful people actually become in life, and by success I don't mean just financial. I'm talking about health and healthy longevity as well. Big thing; do not confuse ego with confidence!

Life can be tricky, risky, and extremely frustrating at times. We are all living in a relatively precarious situation here on Earth. No one ever said it would be easy, but when it's sweet, man is it ever sweet! Attempting to figure life out in all of it's complexity is not for everyone, but for those who try, the rewards are normally massive! Many prefer to stay extremely compartmentalized, as it often seems easier and less scary. To a very large degree, the world just is what it is. Attempting to change it to any large degree can seem like a pretty futile mission, but really understanding it, or at least getting a good handle on it, can be unbelievably empowering!

For those who believe in a spiritual realm, I personally feel that the darker spiritual forces seem to often use or encourage extreme ego, and use it as a powerful tool. If ego & greed are at the root of all evil, then this would make a lot of sense. The tricky part of this however, is that not all ego is evil, or bad necessarily at all. If it's a healthy dose, it can greatly encourage, or drive people to succeed and achieve in major ways. This is basically what competition really is, and as we all know, it can be an extremely exciting & motivating aspect of this life!

There is a war being fought in the world today, however, (especially in recent years), and it's not between religious groups or countries. I believe it's a spiritual war, and it's being fought by every single human being on Earth. It's the frequent, daily battles between good and evil. You can see it, (and actually feel it), in virtually every human interaction that takes place.

By far the biggest ego-driven problem on this planet right now, is the divisive polarization between, and within various groups of people. The strength and prosperity of these groups, along with our entire species overall, dramatically improves the more united we become, not the more divided. Fighting with each other, whether as individuals, groups, or as countries, is extremely counterproductive. it slows us down, creates chaos, and prevents constructive action.

The reason for this problem is simple. We all have access to a vast and quickly growing amount of raw data and information. we're all viewing this information however, through different "coloured lenses", and listening with "selective hearing". A great example of this would be Democrats viewing the data through blue lenses, and Republicans through red (we get a lot of American news up here in Canada). We're all simply taking in and accepting the data which supports our own opinions and ideologies, and rejecting or ignoring that which does not. We do this because our ego is convincing us that our own ideas and belief systems must naturally be right. We also love the feeling of being accepted and fitting in with our respective groups. Most find that going along with the main ideologies of the group is the best way to achieve this.

By far the most accurate view will always be the one not tinted by political or personal agenda/bias. This, unfortunately, would require a dramatic reduction in the often massive egos of many in our world. We all have tinted lenses deep in our subconscious mind. The only real way to create a more united world, is for all of us to humble ourselves to the point that we can see things more accurately. This means being more open to the viewpoints of others. This does NOT mean that we should wimp out and change our minds on everything, just let a bit of air out of the old pride balloon. Our own tinted views are NOT 100% ACCURATE!! Anyone who thinks otherwise, is most likely a complete narcissist.

Two people looking at the exact same data, are always going to interpret it somewhat differently, which may result in very different conclussions being made. The big problem, is that somewhere in all of this, is the truth. We as a species, need to start getting to this ultimate truth. There are currently some very large issues on Earth. If we choose not to unite and get to the ultimate reality on these issues, we are going to be in some serious trouble very soon. As human beings, we love to debate everything indefinitely. On issues such as abortion, this mainly boils down to people's personal or religious ideologies, which will always differ. When it comes to issues that rely on proven scientific data, however, we need to stop debating and start acting.

Great examples of this, would be the coronavirus pandemic, and climate change. Countries and states/provinces which are politicizing the covid issue, are not doing well with this pandemic. Areas which are going by, and acting on proven scientific data, are fairing dramatically better. With climate change, the same principle applies. The variety of tinted political views are creating chaos and slowing our reaction time. We need to react based on the proven scientific data, not on our own personal politically charged views. Science is not evil, it is not the devil. Most people trust medical science almost implicitly. What is far more likely to be demonic is the extreme human egos, which are causing this incredibly vicious, tribal, and divisive behavior in our modern world.

The other main ego-driven existential threat to humankind, is our basic tendency towards warring behavior. The weapons of mass destruction stockpiling on Earth, are now to the point where a third world war would likely mean the extinction of our entire species (on this planet or any other). If this does occur, it will indeed be our tribal behavior, driven by the human ego, that'll be to blame. If we all decide to be complacent on this, and continue on this path of worldwide insanity, it'll be a crying shame. It is preventable, but only if we wake up and smell the coffee in time. There are thankfully many in this world who are indeed very aware of this reality. The big question is, will enough wake up in time.

When you stop and think about the enormity and vastness of our universe, you realize that we are all very isolated (physically) here on this little planet. From all the intel we've accumulated thus far, it's looking like we are most likely the only beings of our species in this, or any other galaxy. Since every planet is completely different, with very different environmental conditions, this actually makes perfect sense.

This also makes the human tendency of many, toward aggressive and destructive behavior, that much more dangerous. If we nuke ourselves into oblivion, or allow climate change to continue at this rate, it will literally mean the end of all human life, anywhere, and for all of eternity. It also makes it much more obvious that we just can't seem to get past our own egos to see the much bigger picture on this. The common belief many share, that we'll just fly off to another planet and escape all of our Earthly problems, is pure fantasy. The closest planet to us that may have somewhat similar environmental conditions, is at least thousands of travel years away from us. Also, we would simply be bringing our ego-driven, divisive, and warring tendencies with us.

A much wiser and more realistic plan, would be to solve the root problem. We need to get a handle on the out-of-control extreme egos within our species, on this planet. This plan is not only realistic and doable, as an added bonus, it would also dramatically improve the quality of life for everyone on Earth, beginning almost immediately once we make this global change in our attitudes. A good example of this problem, is the rampant amount of racism, sexism, and elitism that still exists in our world today. We must rise above our animalistic tendencies, or all that may be left of our species, in the very near future, will be some bones and fossils. As dark and dramatic as this may sound, this will likely be our reality folks, unless we get smarter about what we're doing, and start looking at the bigger picture. Let's face it, extreme human ego is the main reason why virtually all of the world's problems exist. If we could really start getting a handle on it, what an amazing world this would become.

The human ego is a very big part of life on Earth, much bigger than most realize. It plays a huge role in much of what goes on in our day-to-day lives. It also has historically (and continues to) play a huge role in larger corporate, government, religious, and societal issues, decisions and policies. It is an extremely powerful force in our world that motivates many to do great, and sometimes not-so-great things. It is imperative that people start paying more attention to this force. If we choose to ignore it, the consequences will likely be catastrophic, both in our personal lives and in the bigger picture.
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Discussion # 17 - Ego / Pride

Most people think of ego as being all bad, & it's not. Ego in it's purest form is self-esteem, which (in the right dose) is extremely healthy. Pride is also healthy in the right dose. Why these terms have gotten such a bad reputation, is because many people overdose on them. When most talk about pride & ego, they are really referring to extreme pride & ego. Which, when coupled with greed are basically the root of all evil.

As we see/experience everything through our own eyes/senses, the world really does seem to revolve around us. It's easy to see why so many struggle with this issue. People try desperately to hide these attitudes, but they are always there. We take pride in our education, property, affluence, family, accomplishments, talents, (etc.), & this is normal, healthy & fun. Just like a lot of things in life, it's only a problem in excess.

People are watching very closely for these traits, & they greatly affect our popularity. It makes me laugh when I see people being overly judgemental in this area, because it's pretty obvious they do it too. Everyone flexes their pride & ego muscles every now & then, & in moderation it's healthy, gratifying & enjoyable. On the other hand when extreme, people can smell it a mile away, & it can be a pretty foul odor. It shouldn't be all or nothing, just balance. This applies to the competitive spirit as well.

Think of our ego as being the underlying driving engine that is constantly chugging away, attempting to maintain or increase our perceived significance in the universe. It's interesting to see how we all quickly evaluate each other when meeting someone for the first time. It can be extremely difficult to change this initial evaluation regardless of what we accomplish or achieve later on. People generally attempt to keep you at that same level in their minds forever. It would take something extremely major to alter it even a little. It's funny that despite this, our ego strongly motivates us to almost constantly try.

We all have an ego (self-esteem). It's only when a person's ego greatly surpasses their talent, or justification for said ego, that people are turned off and will judge harshly for it. Most people tend to be fairly self-absorbed in the modern era, and generally toggle back & forth between feeling quite proud of themselves, to obsession with their own perceived flaws. The more confident an individual is, the less they will vacillate in this manner, and the more likely they (we) will be more generous and thoughtful towards others. As we advance through history, narcissism is becoming more and more common, but there are still some down-to-earth, humble people out there (and many more who fall somewhere in between).

Whether at work or at play, for most people much of the time, dealing with the egos of others is generally by far the most mentally exhausting aspect of life. The higher the "arse factor" of the person or people you are dealing with, the more exhausting it is. On the other hand, many get a huge thrill out of competing with those who have a similarly large ego, and interacting with others can often be the most enjoyable activity in this life. It's a complex subject, as we are complex creatures. Getting a good handle on this, however, normally results in dramatically higher quality of life.

Many women are actually quite attracted to a man with a larger ego or AF (and vise/versa). They are often more than willing to tolerate the more negative aspects that come with these more aggressive personality types. This has always been quite fascinating to me, as being myself more of a passive and laid-back individual, I've noticed this phenomenon on many occasions. The basic underlying aggression level is in my opinion, one of the most critical and defining aspects of our personality (second only to intelligence). This just further proves how complex and different we all are.

Another strange but true reality, is that all racial pockets of people in our world are at least a little racist toward some or all other pockets. Not overtly, as of course this is politically incorrect and socially unacceptable, but more of a subtle, underlying attitude that certain (or all) other pockets are somehow less significant overall as human beings. It's absolutely hilarious to me, how so many honestly believe that it's a one-way street in this area. In other words, most believe that they are the ones that either are or aren't acting or feeling racist toward others. It actually works both ways, our ego just doesn't normally see it this way.

The world doesn't just revolve around us, it also revolves around our racial and/or social groups, whatever they might be. To us, our skin colour, etc. seems more "normal", and to others, their's seems more "normal". It's all just perception. This is a big part of the reason why when people immigrate into a foreign country, most normally congregate and choose to live surrounded by their own racial and/or religious pockets.

As much as many try to put others first (including myself), if we're really honest with ourselves, we know that our ego makes it really tough to do. Most can pull this off with their own children, parents, close family and friends, but beyond that, it can be very difficult. When you really stop and think about this, it makes no sense at all. Yes we're genetically and/or emotionally/socially more closely linked, but why is this such a massively huge deal to us? We're all human beings! The answer is simple, it's just our human ego. I personally believe that the main thing is to respect each other as fellow human beings. We're all sharing this planet with each other, and deserve a fair shot at happiness in this thing called life.

The ego we all possess has a huge impact on the game of "Social Darwinism" that the world has become. Our ego is pumping away constantly, rising and falling depending on the situation at hand. How others perceive this in an overall, ongoing fashion plays a huge role in how successful people actually become in life, and by success I don't mean just financial. I'm talking about health and healthy longevity as well. Big thing; do not confuse ego with confidence!

Life can be tricky, risky, and extremely frustrating at times. We are all living in a relatively precarious situation here on Earth. No one ever said it would be easy, but when it's sweet, man is it ever sweet! Attempting to figure life out in all of it's complexity is not for everyone, but for those who try, the rewards are normally massive! Many prefer to stay extremely compartmentalized, as it often seems easier and less scary. To a very large degree, the world just is what it is. Attempting to change it to any large degree can seem like a pretty futile mission, but really understanding it, or at least getting a good handle on it, can be unbelievably empowering!

For those who believe in a spiritual realm, I personally feel that the darker spiritual forces seem to often use or encourage extreme ego, and use it as a powerful tool. If ego & greed are at the root of all evil, then this would make a lot of sense. The tricky part of this however, is that not all ego is evil, or bad necessarily at all. If it's a healthy dose, it can greatly encourage, or drive people to succeed and achieve in major ways. This is basically what competition really is, and as we all know, it can be an extremely exciting & motivating aspect of this life!

There is a war being fought in the world today, however, (especially in recent years), and it's not between religious groups or countries. I believe it's a spiritual war, and it's being fought by every single human being on Earth. It's the frequent, daily battles between good and evil. You can see it, (and actually feel it), in virtually every human interaction that takes place.

By far the biggest ego-driven problem on this planet right now, is the divisive polarization between, and within various groups of people. The strength and prosperity of these groups, along with our entire species overall, dramatically improves the more united we become, not the more divided. Fighting with each other, whether as individuals, groups, or as countries, is extremely counterproductive. it slows us down, creates chaos, and prevents constructive action.

The reason for this problem is simple. We all have access to a vast and quickly growing amount of raw data and information. we're all viewing this information however, through different "coloured lenses", and listening with "selective hearing". A great example of this would be Democrats viewing the data through blue lenses, and Republicans through red (we get a lot of American news up here in Canada). We're all simply taking in and accepting the data which supports our own opinions and ideologies, and rejecting or ignoring that which does not. We do this because our ego is convincing us that our own ideas and belief systems must naturally be right. We also love the feeling of being accepted and fitting in with our respective groups. Most find that going along with the main ideologies of the group is the best way to achieve this.

By far the most accurate view will always be the one not tinted by political or personal agenda/bias. This, unfortunately, would require a dramatic reduction in the often massive egos of many in our world. We all have tinted lenses deep in our subconscious mind. The only real way to create a more united world, is for all of us to humble ourselves to the point that we can see things more accurately. This means being more open to the viewpoints of others. This does NOT mean that we should wimp out and change our minds on everything, just let a bit of air out of the old pride balloon. Our own tinted views are NOT 100% ACCURATE!! Anyone who thinks otherwise, is most likely a complete narcissist.

Two people looking at the exact same data, are always going to interpret it somewhat differently, which may result in very different conclussions being made. The big problem, is that somewhere in all of this, is the truth. We as a species, need to start getting to this ultimate truth. There are currently some very large issues on Earth. If we choose not to unite and get to the ultimate reality on these issues, we are going to be in some serious trouble very soon. As human beings, we love to debate everything indefinitely. On issues such as abortion, this mainly boils down to people's personal or religious ideologies, which will always differ. When it comes to issues that rely on proven scientific data, however, we need to stop debating and start acting.

Great examples of this, would be the coronavirus pandemic, and climate change. Countries and states/provinces which are politicizing the covid issue, are not doing well with this pandemic. Areas which are going by, and acting on proven scientific data, are fairing dramatically better. With climate change, the same principle applies. The variety of tinted political views are creating chaos and slowing our reaction time. We need to react based on the proven scientific data, not on our own personal politically charged views. Science is not evil, it is not the devil. Most people trust medical science almost implicitly. What is far more likely to be demonic is the extreme human egos, which are causing this incredibly vicious, tribal, and divisive behavior in our modern world.

The other main ego-driven existential threat to humankind, is our basic tendency towards warring behavior. The weapons of mass destruction stockpiling on Earth, are now to the point where a third world war would likely mean the extinction of our entire species (on this planet or any other). If this does occur, it will indeed be our tribal behavior, driven by the human ego, that'll be to blame. If we all decide to be complacent on this, and continue on this path of worldwide insanity, it'll be a crying shame. It is preventable, but only if we wake up and smell the coffee in time. There are thankfully many in this world who are indeed very aware of this reality. The big question is, will enough wake up in time.

When you stop and think about the enormity and vastness of our universe, you realize that we are all very isolated (physically) here on this little planet. From all the intel we've accumulated thus far, it's looking like we are most likely the only beings of our species in this, or any other galaxy. Since every planet is completely different, with very different environmental conditions, this actually makes perfect sense.

This also makes the human tendency of many, toward aggressive and destructive behavior, that much more dangerous. If we nuke ourselves into oblivion, or allow climate change to continue at this rate, it will literally mean the end of all human life, anywhere, and for all of eternity. It also makes it much more obvious that we just can't seem to get past our own egos to see the much bigger picture on this. The common belief many share, that we'll just fly off to another planet and escape all of our Earthly problems, is pure fantasy. The closest planet to us that may have somewhat similar environmental conditions, is at least thousands of travel years away from us. Also, we would simply be bringing our ego-driven, divisive, and warring tendencies with us.

A much wiser and more realistic plan, would be to solve the root problem. We need to get a handle on the out-of-control extreme egos within our species, on this planet. This plan is not only realistic and doable, as an added bonus, it would also dramatically improve the quality of life for everyone on Earth, beginning almost immediately once we make this global change in our attitudes. A good example of this problem, is the rampant amount of racism, sexism, and elitism that still exists in our world today. We must rise above our animalistic tendencies, or all that may be left of our species, in the very near future, will be some bones and fossils. As dark and dramatic as this may sound, this will likely be our reality folks, unless we get smarter about what we're doing, and start looking at the bigger picture. Let's face it, extreme human ego is the main reason why virtually all of the world's problems exist. If we could really start getting a handle on it, what an amazing world this would become.

The human ego is a very big part of life on Earth, much bigger than most realize. It plays a huge role in much of what goes on in our day-to-day lives. It also has historically (and continues to) play a huge role in larger corporate, government, religious, and societal issues, decisions and policies. It is an extremely powerful force in our world that motivates many to do great, and sometimes not-so-great things. It is imperative that people start paying more attention to this force. If we choose to ignore it, the consequences will likely be catastrophic, both in our personal lives and in the bigger picture.